I heard about the “hug it out” technique a few years ago and thought it was about hugging your hysterical child until s/he finally calms down. I tried that a couple times and it didn’t really work. I should have tried this one:
One of the things I love about this technique is that is a great way to be honest with your hysterical child about how you feel in the face of his or her tantrum. It is certainly better than losing your temper and you both get the hugs you both need.
You can read a bit more in the post ‘Why “hugging it out during tantrums” works‘.